One Parent Home.

It was requested that I write about this. So I figured I would. For me it started about 5 years ago, my life changed dramatically when my parents split. It went from the perfect picture of a family, to just slowly but yet a quick fall out. It was a very confusing time. I know there's A LOT of divorced parents out there, and it seems like the "norm" in society, but you never think it'd happen to you. At least that's what I thought. It was really hard for me to accept. I was hurt a lot by it, and I've tried for years to accept it.

Going from a two parent family, to one parent family... its a big transition, and a lot of people don't realize this, but it does affect the kids a lot, no matter what their age it. everything that was once done as a family is now done differently. For me, my mom had moved 3hrs away. Which was really really hard for me, because, well she was like my best friend. I have such a strong relationship with her. I went from seeing her everyday to seeing her as much as 6 times a year. It was hard on me.

I am trying to write on this topic without trying to touch on my personal life too much, just because I am not really one to open up to just anyone. I also don't really need my personal life exposed all over the internet.
Plus, I want you all to know in my case, we weren't abandoned, there were just issues between my parents that they couldn't work out, it was never super bad between my parent, I got lucky in that sort. But it was still very much hard to go through. I will not go into detail about it though, because its really no ones business but my families. (not trying to be rude)

I want to be able to write this though to help others who are in a situation like I am. I know how hard it is growing up in a single parent home, watching things fall apart. Struggling financially, struggling as a family, struggling emotionally. It was all very hard, but I guess the most important thing was remembering that you are still a family, even if you're parents aren't together. Whether they just fell out, or they never got along, one abandoned you, or one passed away, or simply you just never got the chance to meet them. Its all hard.

I want you to know it does get easier, it may still be hard, but it will be a heck of a lot easier than it used to be. As you grow stronger with time, you learn to accept things as they are and how they will be. You get accustomed to they way things are now. There will always be a part of you that wishes you could have the family all back, just sitting there in the back of your mind, but never let that take over. Learn to make good out of your situation. Life may always through challenges at you, but what doesn't kill you, always makes you stronger.

Remember fall down 7 times, stand up 8.  We are put through these things because we can get through them, they teach us about life. Take this as a lesson, learn from what went wrong and take that into your future. Also remember "good things fall about so greater things can fall together".

I know no matter how much I wish my parents never split, I look at where I am right now, all the things in my life that I have right now, somehow in someway came to me as a result of that. I wouldn't be where I am today without my past, and same is for you. I wouldn't have the great friends I have right now. I wouldn't have these two amazing dogs that I have right now that mean the world to me. My two dogs are the light of my life, they make me happy when I am sad, and they cuddle with me when they know I am sick.  I know at times they can drive me nuts, but I will endlessly love them. I've met people, I may have never met before. I have experienced things I may have never gotten to experience. So even though I may have lost something so special, I've gained many more in its place.

Even though you go through these struggles, you must remember on the other side there's something beautiful waiting to be discovered. <3

I hope this helps others who've gone through a similar situation. :)



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Just to add... The hardest thing... is missing my mother.<3